The Art of Flirting: Tips and Techniques


Last Updated: November 30, 2023

Relationship Advice

Wondering how to use the art of flirting to enhance your sugar dating? It’s easier than you think! Whether you consider yourself a natural flirt or could use a bit of practice, these tips will elevate your flirting game to a whole new level.

Benefits of flirting

Before we dive into some useful tips, you might be wondering whether flirting is really necessary. And the answer is, well, no. You don’t need to flirt to build a relationship with a sugar daddy or sugar baby. But, there are quite a few benefits, such as:

  • Lowering the tension. The most obvious advantage of being a good flirt is that it makes people feel comfortable. When your date feels safe, they’ll be eager to get to know you more.
  • Keeping things fun. Sugaring is all about having fun and trying new things. That’s why the light-hearted nature of flirting is the perfect tone for a sugar date.
  • Speeding up the getting-to-know-you phase. As we mentioned, flirting allows you to relax around a potential partner. And while the getting-to-know-you phase should never be rushed, playful banter between partners can certainly help the process move along.
  • Flirting is attractive! The final, unmistakable benefit of flirting is that it can make you more appealing to potential partners. They’ll remember the way that your flirting made them feel, which will boost your chances for another date.

Flirting basics


There are a few elements of flirting that will make the conversation flow smoothly, including:


A successfully flirty conversation feels effortless. It doesn’t feel like one person is putting in more work than the other, and the jokes come off as natural. But, if you’re new to flirting, this will seem nearly impossible! Luckily, there are a few ways to trick yourself into appearing confident:

  • Give yourself an endorphin boost. When you’re already in a good mood, you’ll naturally feel more comfortable talking to a potential partner. Running and other aerobic sports release these feel-good chemicals in the brain, but you can also listen to your favorite high-energy song, watch a stand-up routine that makes you laugh out loud, or spend time with someone who boosts your mood.
  • Consider every conversation “just practice.” Sometimes, the only thing that limits us from connecting with someone is the pressure we put on ourselves. So, take the pressure off by thinking about every conversation as a chance to simply practice your flirting. If you don’t have chemistry with someone, it’s okay! There are so many other sugar partners to chat with.


At the end of the day, we all want to engage with a partner who asks us about ourselves, remembers the little details, and, most importantly, listens.

One way that you can incorporate interest in your flirty conversation is to set aside time to focus on your chat. Without distractions, you’ll find it easier to think up quippy personal responses and ask follow-up questions. And, try incorporating these conversation starters:

  • What’s your favorite breakfast food?
  • Are you a cat or a dog person?
  • Who is your celebrity crush?


To be fair, if you’re not comfortable with flirting, you will need to fake it til you make it to a certain extent. But, that doesn’t mean that you should take on a completely different persona. A partner will be more attracted to your authentic self than a false flirt, so focus on being yourself.


A key component to flirting is flattery. With the right compliment, you’ll be able to make a potential partner smile and even blush! Who wouldn’t want to continue talking to someone who makes them feel good about themselves? Here are a few conversation starters with the right amount of flattery:

  • “I noticed a gym picture in your profile. Are you a personal trainer?”
  • “I’m not great at online flirting, so I’m just going to tell you I think you’re beautiful.”
  • “Your dog is so cute! And I’m not just saying that because I think you’re gorgeous and want to talk to you…okay, maybe a little.”


The art of flirting can actually be quite vulnerable! It requires you to go out on a limb, show interest, and maybe crack a few jokes that might not always land. As long as you can stay respectful (more on that in a moment), risk-taking can be the difference between a forgettable interaction and one that will lead to a date.

The Art of flirting in person


If you’ve been searching for a sugar relationship, you’ll definitely get a lot of practice flirting online. But, the real fun starts when you’re able to see if you have chemistry in person! Here are a few ways to flirt on your first meet & greet:

  • Smiles. If you have a dry sense of humor, that can certainly make you a great flirt for someone with similar taste. But, if you’re looking to appeal to a wider audience, you’re better off cracking smiles and not holding back your laughter. Genuine smiling will put your date at ease, which as we mentioned before, is essential for flirting.
  • Open body language. Another way to create the necessary connection for flirting is to use open body language. Turn your shoulders towards your date and uncross your arms.
  • Playful touch. If things are going well, a playful touch can take your flirting banter to the next level. Make sure that you only make light, respectful contact, such as a touch on the arm or hand.
  • Humor. One of the wonderful things about flirting in person is that humor is much more easily understood when you’re face-to-face. So, don’t be afraid to make a lighthearted joke.

Flirting don’ts

While you will undoubtedly learn how to be a better flirt through trial and error, you can make the process much smoother by avoiding these mistakes:

  • Making suggestive jokes (too soon). When you’re just getting to know someone, sexual flirting can go off the rails quickly. This includes flattery that is only focused on a potential partner’s physical features or jokes about eventually becoming intimate.

  • Taking the teasing too far. Light teasing can help your partner relax and feel more comfortable around you. For instance, if your date knocks over a glass of water, you might say something like, “Honestly, I’m glad to see you’re not perfect because I was feeling intimidated.” But, taking it too far will make your date feel bad and unwilling to see you again.

  • Making jokes at other people’s expense. This is simply in bad taste and should never be a part of your flirting strategy.

  • Feeling the need to flirt all the time. Flirting can be a fantastic way to connect with a partner and build intimacy. But, it is possible to go overboard. Keeping everything light and humorous when your partner is trying to connect on a deeper level will create distance. So, assess the situation and consider when it’s time to stop flirting.

Time to practice your art of flirting!

Everyone has their own unique style of flirting, and it’s time for you to explore yours! So, relax, keep it classy, and don’t be afraid to put yourself out there!

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