What attracts a woman to a man sexually?
It’s a question that can help you light a spark between yourself and an existing partner. Or, it could help you be more successful in your dating game.
As you’ll learn in this article, many of the things that are most appealing to women are completely in your control! So, take notes and get ready to wow her.
Before we get started, a quick reminder that sexual attraction is personal
While we’re going to cover a few common sources of attraction for women in this article, don’t forget that everyone is different. Something that excites one woman may be a turn-off for another. The fact is, sexual attraction is subjective, and that goes for men and women.
So, consider the advice here to be a starting place for exploring and expanding your understanding of female attraction. But also be willing to listen to your partner and keep trying until you find that one thing that she can’t resist. Curiosity, in other words, is your best tool.
Now, let’s talk about some of the things that most women find sexually attractive:
Some facial hair
It may seem too simple to be true, but the fact is women are more attracted to men with some facial hair. Exactly why this is the case is disputed. Some say that facial hair may suggest reproductive viability. Others posit that a good beard can help to mask some of a man’s less-than-ideal facial features. Whatever the reasoning, it appears that women like facial hair, whether it’s some light stubble or a full beard.
We should point out, though, that another study has complicated this finding a bit. The 2014 study out of Australia found that women were less attracted to facial hair than they were novelty. In other words, beards were attractive when most of the men they saw were clean-shaven. Alternatively, they found a clean-shaven face attractive when bombarded with images of bearded men.
So what can you take away from this? If you like your beard, keep it! But, during times when beards are very much in fashion, maybe consider setting yourself apart.
And before we move on from hair, let us just say that regular grooming is important! No matter what hairstyle and facial hairstyle you choose, a woman likes to see a clean, put-together look.
There’s a misconception that kindness in men is a sign of weakness. But when it comes to sexual attraction, that’s simply not the case!
One study, for instance, found that as society changes, women are better able to access practical resources to provide for themselves and their children. In other words, they don’t have to rely so much on a mate to take care of them. They can focus, instead, on compatibility and personality triats like patience, kindness, and emotional maturity.
The good news is, boosting your kindness around a woman is easy. They’ll notice when you treat strangers nicely, offer compliments, and share your sweet inner thoughts.
While there are some studies that show that women are attracted to wealth and power, you don’t have to worry if you’re not the richest guy in the room. That’s because there’s evidence to show that women may actually be more interested in earning capacity than wealth.
What does that mean? Well, when the women in the study were given the choice between a man with a big inheritance and a man who had earned his own wealth, they overwhelmingly chose the latter. The results suggest that women are attracted to ambition, drive, and the potential of a man to earn money in the future.
So, if you want to impress a woman, talk about your goals. Not excessively, of course. But enough to let her know that you’re a hard-working person. You can drive the point home by making sure to treat her to dinner and surprising her with gifts and romantic getaways.
Notice that we said you shouldn’t excessively talk about your ambitions. And that’s because women aren’t sexually attracted to people they consider to be arrogant. While you certainly want to present yourself as driven and goal-oriented, make sure that you stay humble as well.
After all, a woman is going to make assumptions about how you’ll act when things get intimate. If she thinks you’ll steamroll her or overlook her needs, she won’t be particularly compelled to get close to you.
There are a few easy ways to boost your humility around women. For one thing, when talking about your accomplishments, make sure to acknowledge the people who helped you along the way. You can also talk about the people you admire at work. In the right circumstances, even talking about a time that you failed and learned from the experience can convey a sense of humility.
A good physique
You may be surprised that this characteristic isn’t the first answer to the question, “What attracts a woman to a man sexually?” But the truth is, it’s just not as important as some other traits. Men are a lot more interested in a physically attractive mate than women are.
That’s not to say that looks don’t matter, though. Women are attracted to men who take care of themselves. They’ll notice whether you spend time at the gym or set aside time for your fitness. And don’t be surprised if their eyes light up when you tell them you participate in a soccer or hockey league. In fact, a survey of thousands of women found that certain sports, like climbing, soccer, hiking, and working out, are very attractive.
A sense of style
Even if you don’t have time to hit the gym to boost your sex appeal, having a good sense of style could still make you attractive to a woman. That’s because women not only view well-dressed men as more attractive, but they also attribute other characteristics to them. A stylish man gives off a perception of success, innovation, confidence, and other appealing characteristics.
If you’re not sure whether you’re a good dresser, get some help! Book an appointment with a stylist who can elevate your wardrobe and give you day-to-day pointers.
You might have heard it as the “George Clooney Effect,” a scientifically-backed phenomenon in which younger women end up with older men.
The really interesting thing about this tendency is that it only gets stronger with women who are financially independent themselves. The findings completely discredit the idea that women only go after older, wealthy men because they need someone to take care of them. Instead, there seems to be something inherently sexy about a powerful older man.
Our guess is that it has to do with life experience. Older men are more likely to know how to keep a woman happy, whether that be in the bedroom, during a night out, or on a lavish vacation. They’re self-assured and not interested in playing dating games.
A sense of humor
Ever wonder why the funny guy gets the girl? As it turns out, there’s something sexually attractive about a good sense of humor. Exactly why this is the case isn’t clear. It may be because laughing puts a woman at ease by cutting any tension or awkwardness. Or, it could be that funny men are perceived as more dominant and extroverted. Someone with a good sense of humor certainly needs some confidence to be able to joke around.
If you want to try this out during your next date, it could pay off! But, you’ll want to avoid joking about certain topics like politics. Definitely don’t make jokes about your date or put anyone down with your sense of humor. Instead, keep things light and fun.
The ability to stay present
Sometimes sexual attraction is as simple as paying attention. Women are attracted to men who know how to listen. After all, that’s an important skill when you’re ready to take things to the next level.
If you’re the kind of person whose mind works fast or who gets distracted easily, staying in the moment might actually be difficult. But, here are a few ways that you can boost your sex appeal by being present:
- Put your phone away. One of the most respectful, and thus sexy, things you can do during a date is put your phone away. This will show your date that you’re interested in her and her, only.
- Make eye contact. It’s a lot easier to pay attention to what someone is saying when you’re making eye contact. It will also prevent you from being distracted by your surroundings.
- Don’t interrupt. Always allow your date to finish their thought before jumping in. Being interrupted is a huge turn-off for many women.
- Stay grounded. Noticing little details about your current surroundings is a great way to keep yourself in the moment. This could mean paying more attention to the taste of the wine or picking out the different flavors on your plate. Or, if the date is going well, you might initiate some light physical contact with your date, like a brush on the arm or hand. This is sure to keep you in the present moment.
Paying attention comes naturally to some people while it can be tricky for others. But, the more you practice it, the easier it will become.
Open body language
Body language is incredibly important, especially on a first date or trying to build a connection with a woman. Body language that is fidgety, nervous, or closed-off will give her the impression that you’re not going to be a good sexual partner. Here are a few do’s and don’ts when it comes to body language:
Do: Relax your shoulders
One of the first things that we do when we’re nervous is scrunch our shoulders up to our ears and slouch. This is a natural way for the body to protect the neck when we’re stressed. So, make a conscious effort to drop your shoulders and face your date.
Don’t: Cross your arms
Crossed arms create distance and coldness when you really want to convey connection and openness. That’s not to say that you can’t ever cross your arms, especially if not doing so would make you feel (and look) even more uncomfortable. But if you can, remember to drop those arms.
Do: Lean in
Comfortable closeness is something you really want to create on a first date and every date after. Don’t rush it, but don’t be afraid to lean a little closer to hear what she’s saying.
Leaning in can quickly go too far, so make sure that you’re considering personal space. If you lean in and she instinctively leans back, you know you’ve overstepped.
Everyone gets nervous when meeting someone new, so don’t feel bad about it. But, you do want to convey an image of self-confidence and ease, so you can rely on one simple trick to relax: breathe.
Don’t: Hide your smile
Appearing cool and standoffish can backfire quickly because it conveys the message that you don’t want to be there. No matter what you’ve heard about power plays and dating tricks, the truth is, women are sexually attracted to people who are sociable and quick to smile.
And, even if you have to fake it a little bit through your nervousness, even a false smile can have a big impact. That’s because fake smiling actually encourages genuine feelings of happiness. Before you know it, you’ll be smiling for real!
How many of these characteristics can you use to boost your appeal with women?
As you probably noticed, many of the things that women are attracted to sexually are in your control! By paying more attention to her during your date, making an effort to be more active, and elevating your sense of style, you can make huge strides in your dating success.
What kinds of changes will you make now that you know what attracts a woman to a man sexually?